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5 Things I Refuse to Feel Guilty About as a Type-A Mom, Lawyer, and Entrepreneur
5 Things I Refuse to Feel Guilty About as a Type-A Mom, Lawyer, and Entrepreneur
Somewhere along the way, being a good mom got conflated with running yourself into the ground. If you are doing anything for yourself, someone will find a reason to make... Read more...
Your Nervous System Doesn't Need More Performance. It Needs More Safety.
Your Nervous System Doesn't Need More Performance. It Needs More Safety.
I recently came across a post from a wellness influencer making a pretty confident claim: rest will not help your high cortisol. Her prescription was a 10-step protocol involving saunas,... Read more...
Why Women Burn Out Differently: What Chronic Stress Is Actually Doing to Your Body
Why Women Burn Out Differently: What Chronic Stress Is Actually Doing to Your Body
There is a blueprint most of us were handed without realizing it. It looks like a 9-to-5 schedule built around sustained, consistent output with no built-in recovery window. It looks... Read more...
When Doing Everything Right Still Isn't Enough: The Heart Work Nobody Talks About
When Doing Everything Right Still Isn't Enough: The Heart Work Nobody Talks About
I used to believe I had no power over my own life. That is not something I say lightly. For a long time, it was simply how I moved through... Read more...
Equal Does Not Mean Identical: What Women Need to Know About Stress, Hormones, and Why We Crash
Equal Does Not Mean Identical: What Women Need to Know About Stress, Hormones, and Why We Crash
Let me say something that most people are too careful to say out loud. We confused equal value with identical biology. And that confusion is costing women their health. I... Read more...
Your First Feeling Isn't the Truth (And Learning This Changed Everything)
Your First Feeling Isn't the Truth (And Learning This Changed Everything)
I was standing behind a little table on a patio this week, coffee cups lined up, talking to a group of women who'd come to hear me talk about stress.... Read more...
Same Storms, Deeper Roots: How I Stopped White-Knuckling Through Hard Seasons
Same Storms, Deeper Roots: How I Stopped White-Knuckling Through Hard Seasons
There was a version of me who met every hard season the same way. Something difficult would happen and I'd immediately brace for it. White-knuckle it through. Feel like life... Read more...
Why You Can't Heal Your Body Until You Change What You're Thinking
Why You Can't Heal Your Body Until You Change What You're Thinking
Think about biting into a lemon. I mean really think about it. Picture the tartness. Feel it hit your tongue. I'd bet your mouth just watered a little. Mine still... Read more...
Stop Reacting, Start Responding: The 3-Step Pause That Changes Everything
Stop Reacting, Start Responding: The 3-Step Pause That Changes Everything
Unless a tiger is literally chasing you, you almost certainly have more time than your nervous system is telling you. That is not a small thing to understand. Because most... Read more...
The Compassionate Overcomer: The Way Through Trauma That Actually Works
The Compassionate Overcomer: The Way Through Trauma That Actually Works
There are two ways most people respond when something really hard happens to them. And I say this with no judgment at all, because I have done both. The first... Read more...
Fear or Excitement? Your Nervous System Can't Tell the Difference and That's Actually Good News
Fear or Excitement? Your Nervous System Can't Tell the Difference and That's Actually Good News
A friend called me not long ago and she was spiraling. She had just been offered a promotion she had been working toward for a while, and instead of feeling... Read more...
Your Thoughts Are Not Facts: How Awareness, Questioning, and Choosing Again Actually Changes Your Life
Your Thoughts Are Not Facts: How Awareness, Questioning, and Choosing Again Actually Changes Your Life
Most people, when they decide they want their life to look different, start on the outside. They change the job, the relationship, the city, the routine. And sometimes that helps.... Read more...